Who among us does not like to feel validated or special? It is a powerful vibe that you get from people with an inspiring spirit. Today I am thankful for uplifting and kind people. After meeting with a couple of special ladies this morning I felt renewed and encouraged. What I realized is that these women are "Dream Spotters." I can always count on them to remind me of my strengths and keep me grounded at the same time.
Everyone needs people like this in their lives. On the other hand, I was at a recent event and came across a "Dream Smasher." This lady was being so negative and mean-spirited that I literally felt I needed to shower to get the negative vibe off of me. Intuitively we feel the difference in a person’s intention. So, if you want more positive in your life and less negative, consider the vibe that you give off to others. Ask yourself these five basic questions:
1. Who have I encouraged or made feel special today?
2. Did I criticize or run down anyone today?
3. Who in my life makes me want to be a better person, just by spending time with them?
4. Who in my life leaves me feeling beat down and discouraged after spending time around them?
5. What can I do to make a positive difference in life of someone else?
These are important questions and ones that will affect whether you draw people to you or repel people from you. Become a dream spotter for others and thank the ones you have in your life!
Wednesday, February 24, 2010
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
Develop your Get REAL Body Image Re-Think! (Part III)
My Story continuted:
From trial and error, I learned that beauty comes from doing the best you can, with what you have, and allowing your inner spirit to shine through. No one in High School would have ever believed that I would win any kind of contest, let alone a beauty pageant. But once again, you can’t let what people think about you, limit what you are meant to be. The opinions of others are clouded by the perspective in which they view you from. Have the courage to be who you were meant to be, not what others think you are.
You are so much more than numbers on a scale. Look at Hollywood, many stars have what the world says will make you happy, things like money, perfect bodies and fame. Keep in mind that most of these same people struggle to find happiness. They struggle with relationships, addictions and being insecure. If being thin and attractive does not equate to happiness, then what makes you think it will make your dreams come true? It is time to Get REAL, let go of any attachment to external features and see the big picture.
In the REAL world what actually matters is what you invest in yourself. Now is the time to start living a healthy lifestyle, not to be skinny, but to feel good and to live a long, strong and healthy life. By doing this, you give yourself the tools needed to find inner happiness and true beauty.
The key message I want to leave you with is, you have control over the YOU that you project. To exert this control you must start spending time investing in who you are, versus what you weigh or how you look. You waste energy when you approach your goals from the backside. True beauty comes from looking within and developing your special qualities.
No more feeling sorry for yourself. In the words of Joyce Meyer, “You can be pitiful or powerful but you can’t be both.” You get to choose which you will be. Consider that you are not a victim, you have the victory in you if you are ready to uncover your unique self. Invest in yourself daily and you will begin to uncover the true beauty that is within you and as a result, others will begin to see it too.
Remember this Get REAL Key Point: “It is only by changing how you treat yourself that you can change how other people will treat you!”
From trial and error, I learned that beauty comes from doing the best you can, with what you have, and allowing your inner spirit to shine through. No one in High School would have ever believed that I would win any kind of contest, let alone a beauty pageant. But once again, you can’t let what people think about you, limit what you are meant to be. The opinions of others are clouded by the perspective in which they view you from. Have the courage to be who you were meant to be, not what others think you are.
You are so much more than numbers on a scale. Look at Hollywood, many stars have what the world says will make you happy, things like money, perfect bodies and fame. Keep in mind that most of these same people struggle to find happiness. They struggle with relationships, addictions and being insecure. If being thin and attractive does not equate to happiness, then what makes you think it will make your dreams come true? It is time to Get REAL, let go of any attachment to external features and see the big picture.
In the REAL world what actually matters is what you invest in yourself. Now is the time to start living a healthy lifestyle, not to be skinny, but to feel good and to live a long, strong and healthy life. By doing this, you give yourself the tools needed to find inner happiness and true beauty.
The key message I want to leave you with is, you have control over the YOU that you project. To exert this control you must start spending time investing in who you are, versus what you weigh or how you look. You waste energy when you approach your goals from the backside. True beauty comes from looking within and developing your special qualities.
No more feeling sorry for yourself. In the words of Joyce Meyer, “You can be pitiful or powerful but you can’t be both.” You get to choose which you will be. Consider that you are not a victim, you have the victory in you if you are ready to uncover your unique self. Invest in yourself daily and you will begin to uncover the true beauty that is within you and as a result, others will begin to see it too.
Remember this Get REAL Key Point: “It is only by changing how you treat yourself that you can change how other people will treat you!”
Develop your Get REAL Body Image Re-Think! (Part II)
My Story:
Living life to match a number on a scale or in a dress, is not living. I know this first hand. It is time for me to Get REAL with you, high school was not a fun time for me, I was a nerd or maybe worse, I just blended into the wallpaper. I was too tall, had bad skin, a totally bad hair cut, and crummy social skills. To say the least, I was not confident.
But then something happened. I had a few key people express confidence in me and showed me how to enter scholarship pageants. I thought, “Finally this tall thing is going to be useful!” It was unbelievable the transformation. It was not so much what happened on the outside, it was what took place on the inside. Suddenly I had REAL reasons to feel good about myself.
What was the difference? I was finally doing things to make myself be the best ME, I could be. I was polishing up the rough edges. I started working out, not to be thin, but to get in better shape. I started eating better and as a result my skin, hair and nails started looking better. Eventually, I started walking taller and with more confidence.
I began paying attention to what was going on in the world and started investing time in forming well thought out opinions. Part of that meant I had to fully understand what my core values and beliefs were. I had to establish clear personal boundaries and stick to them. Preparing for interview taught me to be well spoken, well thought out and concise.
This preparation built an internal confidence in me that was reflected in my outer appearance. Had I changed? Yes and no. I had changed how I treated myself and in turn people changed how they treated me. I went on to win enough scholarship money to pay for my entire education as well as earning several titles. But the greatest thing I, this former self-professed nerd, gained was a sense of true body image and self worth.
Lisa M. Schilling RN, CPT http://www.getrealwellnesssolutions.com/
Living life to match a number on a scale or in a dress, is not living. I know this first hand. It is time for me to Get REAL with you, high school was not a fun time for me, I was a nerd or maybe worse, I just blended into the wallpaper. I was too tall, had bad skin, a totally bad hair cut, and crummy social skills. To say the least, I was not confident.
But then something happened. I had a few key people express confidence in me and showed me how to enter scholarship pageants. I thought, “Finally this tall thing is going to be useful!” It was unbelievable the transformation. It was not so much what happened on the outside, it was what took place on the inside. Suddenly I had REAL reasons to feel good about myself.
What was the difference? I was finally doing things to make myself be the best ME, I could be. I was polishing up the rough edges. I started working out, not to be thin, but to get in better shape. I started eating better and as a result my skin, hair and nails started looking better. Eventually, I started walking taller and with more confidence.
I began paying attention to what was going on in the world and started investing time in forming well thought out opinions. Part of that meant I had to fully understand what my core values and beliefs were. I had to establish clear personal boundaries and stick to them. Preparing for interview taught me to be well spoken, well thought out and concise.
This preparation built an internal confidence in me that was reflected in my outer appearance. Had I changed? Yes and no. I had changed how I treated myself and in turn people changed how they treated me. I went on to win enough scholarship money to pay for my entire education as well as earning several titles. But the greatest thing I, this former self-professed nerd, gained was a sense of true body image and self worth.
Lisa M. Schilling RN, CPT http://www.getrealwellnesssolutions.com/
Develop your Get REAL Body Image Re-Think! (Part I)
Hey friends, I wanted to give a shout out to all the young people out there. I am a HUGE supporter of a Get REAL approach to life, REAL being--Realistic Expectations About Life. I have been through a crazy world of up and down, secure and insecure. What it is has taught me is an incredible message that I want to pass on to you. No one can make you feel “less than” unless you let them.
That may sound a little strange, but let it sink in. Throughout my life I have made mistakes and I have grown from everyone one of them. Without tests in life you will never have a testimony. In fact most people just end up with the monies. They allow what people say about then to shape how they feel about themselves. Big mistake, big--huge, don’t go there. You are an amazing and unique person. There is no one else like you, with your gifts and your capacity.
It is time to stop trying to conform to what others look like. Be the best YOU that you can create. Play up your strengths and keep your focus on them. If you constantly think of what you don’t like, that is what others will see too. Forget that! Keep your attention clearly focused on your special qualities. Energy flows to where your attention goes, so keep your attention on what makes you special.
What you look like has less to do with your body shape and more to do with your inner attitude and spirit. What you project from your spirit will show in your actions, mannerisms and charisma. All else is false. You have all been given different shapes, sizes and features. They make you who you are. Learn to rock your uniqueness.
Does how you look matter? In a way yes. Are you doing all you can do with what you have? That is the key. When you go out, do you project the YOU that is on the inside? Taking time to be healthy, eat right, exercise and care for your mental health are more important than what a scale says. My Goal is to help young women ditch the goal of being skinny and embrace a lifestyle of living healthy.
To showcase that goal I have created twenty steps to help you uncover your true beauty. They are:
That may sound a little strange, but let it sink in. Throughout my life I have made mistakes and I have grown from everyone one of them. Without tests in life you will never have a testimony. In fact most people just end up with the monies. They allow what people say about then to shape how they feel about themselves. Big mistake, big--huge, don’t go there. You are an amazing and unique person. There is no one else like you, with your gifts and your capacity.
It is time to stop trying to conform to what others look like. Be the best YOU that you can create. Play up your strengths and keep your focus on them. If you constantly think of what you don’t like, that is what others will see too. Forget that! Keep your attention clearly focused on your special qualities. Energy flows to where your attention goes, so keep your attention on what makes you special.
What you look like has less to do with your body shape and more to do with your inner attitude and spirit. What you project from your spirit will show in your actions, mannerisms and charisma. All else is false. You have all been given different shapes, sizes and features. They make you who you are. Learn to rock your uniqueness.
Does how you look matter? In a way yes. Are you doing all you can do with what you have? That is the key. When you go out, do you project the YOU that is on the inside? Taking time to be healthy, eat right, exercise and care for your mental health are more important than what a scale says. My Goal is to help young women ditch the goal of being skinny and embrace a lifestyle of living healthy.
To showcase that goal I have created twenty steps to help you uncover your true beauty. They are:
- Discover what qualities make you different
- Create a plan to honor what makes you special
- Define what you are good at and build on those things
- Discover and accept what you are not strong in, and don’t waste time on them
- Release old thinking about superficial beauty and its tie to your body image
- Establish your core values and personal boundaries
- Take time to understand the “why” behind your values and what you believe
- Spend time developing your talents and hobbies daily
- Read inspirational and informative books
- Stay aware of what is happening in the world and develop an informed opinion
- Be aware of techno-excess and place value on face to face and handwritten expression
- Surround yourself with uplifting and encouraging friends and mentors
- Distance yourself from toxic or negative people
- Seek out ways to help others and volunteer your time
- Begin to take time daily to exercise your body, invest in your health
- Fuel your body with water and nutritious, healthy food
- Care for your skin and body, create a daily routine
- Seek ways to relax and manage stress
- Stop negative thoughts immediately and insert a positive message
- Always smile and radiate confidence, joy and compassion to all that you meet
Lisa Schilling RN, CPT
www.getrealwellnesssolutions.com
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